Instructions

Read the statement and rank how you agree/feel about it.

For best results:
  • Appreciate yourself for how you are today
  • Realize that there are no "good" or "bad" answers here
  • Be honest with yourself for the most accurate and rewarding results
Some tips you have trouble answering questions:
Click "I disagree" if the statement feels false, neutral, boring, weird, foreign, shocking, silly, ridiculous, surprising, like a complete lie out of nowhere, e.g.:
  • You'd reply e.g. "Nope", "It's a cliché", "The opposite is more true!", "Actually, I don't really care", "(yawn")
  • You 100% know that by disagreeing you're not lying to yourself, even if it's not how you'd like reality to be
  • You'd strongly object if someone tried to convince you otherwise
  • You'd reply e.g. "Never!", "Doesn't happen" or "You confused me with someone else"
  • You feel neutral or bored with the idea
Click "I partly agree" if the statement has some truth in it, but not all the time, or never fully goes either way, e.g.:
  • You'd reply "Sometimes", "somewhat, but I never go all the way"
  • You'd reply "I could do more/less but I don't care either way", "it would be nice to have more, but it's fine as it is"
  • You'd reply "depends", or "maybe, but I'm not too sure about that",
  • It bothers you a bit, but you're ok with letting go (it doesn't feel like you're sacrificing much)
  • It excites you a bit, but you're ok letting more important things take place
Click "Yes, I agree" if the statement feels like the honest truth, and if the rule is broken, it's important and urgent to pay attention, e.g.:
  • You'd reply "Yes! That's me!" or "Story of my life!", or "This is so true!" or "It's what MY life is all about!" or "You understand me!"
  • You feel strongly judgmental or critical towards yourself about it, e.g. "I wish this didn't bother me, but honestly it does" or "I wish I were better than this, but it's how I am right now"
  • You'd reply "I strongly wish I did more of this, because it makes me A LOT happier!"
  • You like yourself A LOT more if you say it out loud, because you know it's true to your core
  • You'd react as if you'd like yourself A LOT less if you say it out loud, but deep down you feel it's true

Note: the above instructions and tips are not part of the original test created by Cloé Madanes

1. People are impressed by me


2. Feeling that I "belong" is important to me


3. I need to feel grounded


4. I don't mind taking risks


5. I don't fear change


6. A failure is not a failure if you keep trying


7. I believe in giving back


8. I'm good at taking care of people


9. I often worry about what people are saying about me


10. I like to have as much stability in my life as possible


11. It's important to contribute to your community


12. I like to develop new ideas and projects


13. I'm security conscious


14. I like to be an example to others


15. I'm competitive


16. I hate the feeling of boredom


17. I know how to make connections with people


18. I constantly aspire to improve


19. Danger is never exciting to me


20. In most close relationships I'm usually the giver


21. There is always something new to be learned


22. I need to feel fulfilled


23. I frequently evaluate myself


24. I like for things to be predictable


25. I am more loving than most people


26. Recognition is very important to me


27. I like the feeling of exertion


28. I'm very careful of not over spending


29. Education is important to me


30. I'm a leader


31. I'm always looking for new experiences


32. I sometimes over extend myself in trying to help people


33. My routines and habits are important to me


34. I take pride in who I am


35. I like how learning something new changes my perspective


36. Sometimes the most important work is not what you're being paid for


37. I'm not an adventurous person


38. No one would say that I'm selfish


39. I tend to spend beyond my limits


40. I like to feel important


41. Every failure is a learning experience


42. I like to learn in order to teach what i learn


43. I seek unity in my relationship


44. I like to make a difference


45. I refrain from acting when I'm not sure about all the consequences of my actions


46. I suffer when I feel blocked


47. I enjoy suspense


48. Prestige is very important to me


49. I'm a romantic


50. I'm constantly learning


51. Giving is more important to me than receiving


52. I like to be Number 1


53. I hate taking risks of any kind


54. I like to constantly develop myself


55. I like to give my time and energy to good causes


56. I like to be admired by others


57. I'm proud of my ability to learn new things


58. We are here to make this world a better place


59. I like to grow and develop in different areas


60. Personal relationships are the most important thing in my life


61. Sometimes I can be intimidating


62. I often look for new forms of entertainment


63. I'm concerned about anything that might be risky


64. Being fulfilled in your work is more important than being admired


65. I strive to improve my skills


66. I get close to people by being generous with money, time and energy


67. I like to think carefully before I go into action


68. Sometimes I like the thrill of experiencing fear


69. I need to feel respected


70. When we stop growing, we die


71. The feeling of togetherness is important to me


72. For life to make sense, you have to leave a mark in the world


73. Feeling comfortable at all times is important to me


74. I enjoy being involved in many different activities


75. I'm always comparing myself to others in terms of success


76. I need to have passion in my relationship


77. If I'm not contributing to others, my life is meaningless


78. When making a decision, I often think about what might be more enjoyable


79. I can't stand to feel stagnant


80. I need to feel as safe as possible at all times


81. If I commit to something, I worry that something better might come along


82. I never want to be seen as a loser


83. I don't care about having much stability in my life


84. I have a mission