Read the statement and rank how you agree/feel about it.

For best results:
  • Appreciate yourself for how you are today
  • Realize that there are no "good" or "bad" answers here
  • Be honest with yourself for the most accurate and rewarding results
Some tips you have trouble answering questions:
Click "I disagree" if the statement feels false, neutral, boring, weird, foreign, shocking, silly, ridiculous, surprising, like a complete lie out of nowhere, e.g.:
  • You'd reply e.g. "Nope", "It's a cliché", "The opposite is more true!", "Actually, I don't really care", "(yawn")
  • You 100% know that by disagreeing you're not lying to yourself, even if it's not how you'd like reality to be
  • You'd strongly object if someone tried to convince you otherwise
  • You'd reply e.g. "Never!", "Doesn't happen" or "You confused me with someone else"
  • You feel neutral or bored with the idea
Click "I partly agree" if the statement has some truth in it, but not all the time, or never fully goes either way, e.g.:
  • You'd reply "Sometimes", "somewhat, but I never go all the way"
  • You'd reply "I could do more/less but I don't care either way", "it would be nice to have more, but it's fine as it is"
  • You'd reply "depends", or "maybe, but I'm not too sure about that",
  • It bothers you a bit, but you're ok with letting go (it doesn't feel like you're sacrificing much)
  • It excites you a bit, but you're ok letting more important things take place
Click "Yes, I agree" if the statement feels like the honest truth, and if the rule is broken, it's important and urgent to pay attention, e.g.:
  • You'd reply "Yes! That's me!" or "Story of my life!", or "This is so true!" or "It's what MY life is all about!" or "You understand me!"
  • You feel strongly judgmental or critical towards yourself about it, e.g. "I wish this didn't bother me, but honestly it does" or "I wish I were better than this, but it's how I am right now"
  • You'd reply "I strongly wish I did more of this, because it makes me A LOT happier!"
  • You like yourself A LOT more if you say it out loud, because you know it's true to your core
  • You'd react as if you'd like yourself A LOT less if you say it out loud, but deep down you feel it's true

Note: the above instructions and tips are not part of the original test created by Cloé Madanes

1. People are impressed by me

2. Feeling that I "belong" is important to me

3. I need to feel grounded

4. I don't mind taking risks

5. I don't fear change

6. A failure is not a failure if you keep trying

7. I believe in giving back

8. I'm good at taking care of people

9. I often worry about what people are saying about me

10. I like to have as much stability in my life as possible

11. It's important to contribute to your community

12. I like to develop new ideas and projects

13. I'm security conscious

14. I like to be an example to others

15. I'm competitive

16. I hate the feeling of boredom

17. I know how to make connections with people

18. I constantly aspire to improve

19. Danger is never exciting to me

20. In most close relationships I'm usually the giver

21. There is always something new to be learned

22. I need to feel fulfilled

23. I frequently evaluate myself

24. I like for things to be predictable

25. I am more loving than most people

26. Recognition is very important to me

27. I like the feeling of exertion

28. I'm very careful of not over spending

29. Education is important to me

30. I'm a leader

31. I'm always looking for new experiences

32. I sometimes over extend myself in trying to help people

33. My routines and habits are important to me

34. I take pride in who I am

35. I like how learning something new changes my perspective

36. Sometimes the most important work is not what you're being paid for

37. I'm not an adventurous person

38. No one would say that I'm selfish

39. I tend to spend beyond my limits

40. I like to feel important

41. Every failure is a learning experience

42. I like to learn in order to teach what i learn

43. I seek unity in my relationship

44. I like to make a difference

45. I refrain from acting when I'm not sure about all the consequences of my actions

46. I suffer when I feel blocked

47. I enjoy suspense

48. Prestige is very important to me

49. I'm a romantic

50. I'm constantly learning

51. Giving is more important to me than receiving

52. I like to be Number 1

53. I hate taking risks of any kind

54. I like to constantly develop myself

55. I like to give my time and energy to good causes

56. I like to be admired by others

57. I'm proud of my ability to learn new things

58. We are here to make this world a better place

59. I like to grow and develop in different areas

60. Personal relationships are the most important thing in my life

61. Sometimes I can be intimidating

62. I often look for new forms of entertainment

63. I'm concerned about anything that might be risky

64. Being fulfilled in your work is more important than being admired

65. I strive to improve my skills

66. I get close to people by being generous with money, time and energy

67. I like to think carefully before I go into action

68. Sometimes I like the thrill of experiencing fear

69. I need to feel respected

70. When we stop growing, we die

71. The feeling of togetherness is important to me

72. For life to make sense, you have to leave a mark in the world

73. Feeling comfortable at all times is important to me

74. I enjoy being involved in many different activities

75. I'm always comparing myself to others in terms of success

76. I need to have passion in my relationship

77. If I'm not contributing to others, my life is meaningless

78. When making a decision, I often think about what might be more enjoyable

79. I can't stand to feel stagnant

80. I need to feel as safe as possible at all times

81. If I commit to something, I worry that something better might come along

82. I never want to be seen as a loser

83. I don't care about having much stability in my life

84. I have a mission